This week I've had the opportunity to learn first hand what a person who is bipolar and addicted to drugs and alcohol can do to a family. In short, it ruins everything and does nothing but hurt people. Our Easter was dampened by my brother in law (BIL) getting drunk and high and getting into some trouble. He was drinking at a cemetery and ended up passing out and breaking his nose and splitting his head open in front of a man riding his bike.
Its amazing how one call to 911, one ambulance ride and in the end, one family pretty much destroyed. My inlaws (ILs) are enabling BIL by giving him endless money that gives him the freedom to buy large amounts of alcohol and pills and that is a huge part of the equation. After my 12 year old stepson cried after being in a car with his drunk uncle, and my ILs knew that BIL was on a downward spiral, in my book that is just about unforgivable. If the grandparents make excuses for their 32 year old child who is putting other people in danger then its hard to accept as a parent/step-parent. And, if you are a grandparent you should never, never put your grandchild in an uncomfortable situation, even if it means standing up to your own son. You do not put your grandson in a dangerous situation, END OF STORY!!!
Drugs, mental illness and alcohol can ruin a family and I hope that at some point my ILs realize that what BIL has done. In my heart I am done.